Set aside 10-20 minutes to sit down and think about your goals for the New Year. Gretchen Rubin suggests five questions to ask yourself to guide you in setting your goals. Find a pen and notebook and take a 10-20 minutes to write out your answers.
Make resolutions as effective as possible. Remember, right now, you’re in the planning stage. Don’t feel like you have to do anything yet! Just start thinking about what would make  a happier year.
- “What would make me happier?” This could be having more of something (like time with family) or less of something (alcohol) or fixing something that doesn’t feel right (reading before bed instead of scrolling on your phone).
- “What is a concrete action that would bring about change?” It’s important to set a goal that has concrete, measurable actions. Ex: Call my mom when I driving home from work is a good action for the goal of spending more time with family.
- “Am I a ‘yes’ resolver or a ‘no’ resolver?” Some people don’t do well with negative resolutions. If you resent hearing “don’t” or “stop” or making rules for yourself, then find positive resolutions. For example: journal for 10 minutes every Tuesday or take a cooking class.
- “Am I starting small enough?” It’s common to start off with super ambitious resolutions and then drop them before January is over. This is why it’s important to start small and stay consistent. For example- instead of resolving to work out for an hour each day after work, start with a 10 minute walk at lunch. Little accomplishments give you motivation to keep going.
- “How am I going to hold myself accountable?” Are you able to stick to your own goals on your own or do you better when you have a buddy to hold you accountable? Knowing this will make it easier for you hold true to your goals and motivate you when it gets tough resolution to “Eat healthier” is harder to track than “Eat salad for lunch three times a week.”
“There are scores of people waiting for someone just like us to come along; people who will
appreciate our compassion, our encouragement, who will need our unique talents. Someone who will live a happier life merely because we took the time to share what we had to give.”