The Science Behind Love Languages

February 12th, 2021

It’s been many years since Gary Chapman wrote “The Love Languages” book, but this classic still has much to teach us in terms of how to have fulfilling relationships and expressing love to one another.

In his book, Chapman suggests that there are five love languages that romantic partners can use to convey their love and affection towards each other: physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, and acts of service. Words of affirmation are the most common love language. There’s actually some science behind these languages. They were developed based on 10,000 survey responses and some studies show that they can be effective in helping couples more effectively communicate with one another and resolve problems.

Other studies show that the key to these love languages working in a relationship is both partners being able to control and change their behavior. In other words, the behavior change we are always talking about here at Fit and Food Connection can help you even in your relationships!


Here are the main takeaways:

1. When we use the love language that speaks to our partner, we’re more likely to be able to sustain a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

2. We should know our own love language to be able to communicate what we need and desire to our partner. What tells me that someone loves me?

3. Uncover the love language(s) that you and your partner both share together. Hopefully there is at least one!

4. If we aren’t in a romantic relationship, we can seek relationships that better align with our love language. Some people are more inclined to “speak” certain love languages than others. 5. We can be mindful of all of these love languages as different expressions of love to those we interact with each day.


Remember, relationships are key to a healthy and happy life. Take these tips “to heart” in your relationships!


By: Katie Talarico